The New Year is typically a time for resolutions and a clean slate, with many people setting New Years’ Resolutions. I am one of those people, and looking back on years gone past, it is interesting to see the recurring failed and upheld goals each year. Rewind 6 years and what I was aiming to achieve is worlds apart from what I am aiming to achieve now. While a big transformation of mine has been my appearance, perhaps a bigger transformation is my mental progression and strength. I would argue that both the physical and mental growth have been interdependent, with the relationship between the two infiltrating all aspects of my life.
Contrary to popular belief, 6 years ago was probably the first time I ever stepped foot in a gym. I had always been interested in sport and played tennis to a good standard throughout my youth. I can’t say at any point in my teens or very early-twenties did I make exercise a priority (in fact, one of my school reports in P.E. said I spent more time applying make-up than I did participating!) However, after seeing some very unflattering photos of myself on holiday, I decided that the university diet of alcohol and cheesy fries had come to the end of its life. I regained my interest in fitness by participating in three local half marathons and loved the adrenalin boost (as well as the novelty of being able to cast my water bottle aside like they do in the Olympics!), but my love of the gym really began by giving by boyfriend at the time my credit card to sign me up for a membership. I knew without that conviction, it would remain an open tab on my Internet browser.
Forever being frugal, I was not about to pay for a monthly membership that I didn’t use, so I started going to group fitness classes. I found these so rewarding; seeing week on week progression along with the social aspect of meeting other like-minded people was a real positive influence. Over time, as well as becoming physically fitter, I noticed improvements in my posture too – causing me to ‘grow’ about an inch (and finally be taller than my Mom, a check mark on the bucket list I never thought I would be able to apply!) Though some of these classes used weights, they weren’t ‘proper weights’ (think lurid colored dumbbells that look like cat toys!) and I didn’t dare step foot in the weight room among all that testosterone. It took one of my friends competing in a bikini bodybuilding show (I had always previously thought bodybuilding was for gigantic, masculine physiques), that I was persuaded to try the weights room. Only under strict supervision from a personal trainer did I ever enter there, but he persevered with me and taught me the basics. I became hooked; the feeling of the weights was so different to what I had encountered in the classes and I wanted more. He began writing me a training and nutrition program and taught me how to deadlift.
A year or so later, I emigrated to the US and decided to challenge myself by signing up for a fitness photoshoot. I was put on a strict meal, cardio and exercise plan for about 20 weeks and dropped around 25lbs. It was a testing journey; much more mentally than physically. It taught me true grit and showed me just how resilient and determined (stubborn you might even say!) I am. My calories got very low and my cardio got to be around 90 minutes a day near the end, but my adherence felt empowering. The day of the photoshoot was incredible; I felt self-satisfaction about my body that I had never felt before.
The feeling of elation was fleeting as the weeks after were probably more mentally tough than the whole 20 week prep; I had no ‘exit strategy’; no plan for afterwards and felt so lost. I entered a horrible cycle of bingeing and starving myself and gained back around 20lbs of my lost weight very quickly. I felt like a complete failure. After hitting rock bottom, I hired another coach and began personal training sessions here in the US. That structure was exactly what I needed – less so for the accountability, more so for the actual guidance. I found that my training sessions were more intense; I was able to push through pain and never gave up. That initial prep where I had trained when I just wanted to cry really brought out the fighter in me, along with the feeling of never wanting to let myself down again. Working out at this point had solidified to be an integral aspect of my identity.
Feeling such passion for health and fitness, I decided to start a blog and an Instagram, in the hopes of networking and finding like-minded people. It was one of the best simple decisions I have ever made. It has allowed me to share my everyday ‘fitness’ self with those who want to hear/see about it and it has opened me up to a wealth of opportunities and introduced me to some of my closest friends. One of the opportunities was the offer to receive full coaching sponsorship in 2017. My training and nutrition were prescribed and I was coached through 2 bikini bodybuilding competitions, something I had always set on doing since I saw my friend compete in one several years prior. While I enjoyed the process, and was so much more mentally ready for it having done the photoshoot before, it really just wasn’t for me. I found seeing my strength decrease so frustrating and could never really feel comfortable posing (anyone who knows me knows that strutting around in a bikini is just not my personality). I also came off stage expecting to feel invigorated and inspired, and I just left both shows with feelings of emptiness (and not just from hunger!)
Having learnt the hard way before, I reverse dieted out of my shows (the process of slowly adding calories back in rather than going from 1,200kcal a day to 2,000 overnight) and actually dropped bodyweight. This time I kept the weight off (in fact, I currently am about 3lbs lighter than I was on stage). What I found I had enjoyed about bodybuilding was the competitive aspect…so I decided to pursue powerlifting. I went to watch a couple of friends compete in the latter half of 2017 and I just found the whole environment so uplifting. I wanted a piece of it.
When my sponsorship ended, I decided to coach myself. Having been coached for many years on both training and nutrition, I felt I had a sufficient grasp to be able to take it on. I also signed up for my first powerlifting competition in February of this year….and loved it. I stood out as a complete rookie; from not having any of the gear to not knowing what was going on most of the time, but it didn’t matter. Competitors and judges alike were just so supportive and I found the environment invigorating and inspirational. I was part of a sport where world record holders were cheering me on to lift my ‘miniscule-in-comparison’ weights.
It wasn’t until September of this year that I competed again; this time with a friend in Minneapolis. We both ended up winning the whole competition and one of the proudest moments of my life was my third deadlift; lifting 286.6lbs (2.5x my body weight). In November, I competed in my 3rd competition and won my weight class, qualifying nationally. I now have a new coach as I feel I need expertise far beyond my own to help me progress in the gym, but I still write my own nutrition plan (I may be small, but I put away a lot of food!)
Even a year ago, I couldn’t possibly have imagined reaching this point in my fitness journey. My success this year is not in isolation; it is an accumulation of previous endeavors, good and bad, mental and physical. A new year is the perfect time for goal setting, but it is also a perfect time to realize that you can go far beyond any goal you have in mind. Onwards and very definitely upwards.
-Benchpressingbaubles, x